Trying to amuse Ms. English Muso at the Goth Cafe, step 1
Posted on November 24, 2008 by peacefulyorkshire
Yankeebean’s post about English women has been one of our most frequently read pages. She has got me thinking…. could I try to work harder at being friends with some English women in my work circle?
Margaret is a fellow classical musician, teacher, performer, my age, and lives in my city. Already we have stuff in common. It will be great, I decide.
The start of a burgeoning friendship, I initiate a coffee date. Oh, but I won’t suggest Starbucks, no, that is too risky for a first date because I don’t want to look too “American”. A Goth cafe is what she decided instead. But no, she is not a Goth…
My Fantasy: Instant friends!! Leeds shopping pal! Do I hear an invite to her wild hen party someday? Whoo hoo!
My Reality: I can’t seem however to move past that barrier (you know the one?), where we talk about non-work related stuff.
I branched out to see if she has a boyfriend…. yes? Oh Great, I say!
I thought, now we can moan about men in a camaraderie sort of way… Maybe I will even ask her for a good Yorkshire pudding recipe…
Hmmm… that didn’t seem to bond us either…
I KNOW ! I should ask if she knows a hip hair dresser, she has wavy long hair, too!
Ummm….. that didn’t work either.because her boyfriend cuts her hair, and no, he is not a hairdresser.
Got it! What is her opinion on Climate change? Hmmm…. no takers.
Some feminism, perhaps? No, she says.
We then get back to discussing musical things. Sigh…
Its just gonna take longer to break the ice… so I ask, what are you doing next Friday?
A FACT:I once heard a smart Brit business man say “Americans will be your friends fast, but they won’t be your friend forever.British people will slowly come around but they will be your friend for life’.
I will continue asking Margaret out on on friendship dates—- after all, I can’t just have American friends.